I’m still on someone’s media relations list, even though it’s been years since I ran a community blog. (Thank the good Lord above.) I’m forever getting emails about mediocre artists’ new album releases and strange gift books. Today’s was the absolute limit.
From a woman called Gabrielle at myhormonesmademedoit.com (seriously) I am invited to write about The Hormone Horoscope:
For instance, if you’re in Week 1 of your cycle, seek out family members you adore! In Week 2? Careful of spur-of-the-moment confessionals! Week 3? Your best bet is to sit next to a chatterbox! Week 4? Sidle up to the punch bowl!
It’s Hysteria!!! Literal, actual hysteria–blaming the womb for the (perceived) insanity of women. It sets the clock back for women a millenium or two. And it simultaneously seeks to relieve women of the responsibility for their own actions. You know–blame it on the hormones. Which are the equivalent of the devil. You know, that phrase that Flip Wilson made popular a generation ago? “The Devil Made Me Do It.” Well, just substitute “my hormones” for “The Devil” and you have the URL for this woman’s abomination of a website.
I realise that most women have an uneasy truce with their hormones, similar feelings to those a seasoned cowboy has for the racing stallion it took years to train. You know that you are sitting astride raw, unmatched power and that you have to control it so it doesn’t run away from you. Occasionally you get bitten–but more often you can race like the wind. And with the stallion on your side you can accomplish great things. You can literally create and nurture new life. You can heal and feel with unmatched sensitivity. Female hormones are nothing short of a miracle. A miracle that begets more miracles.
I think it’s a good thing for women to know their bodies and what those bodies are up to. But I always have and always will hate the cutesification of knowledge. Just as I rail against sweet nicknames for genitals I rail against the idea of making female hormones the subject of some idiotic “horoscope”. Yes, your hormones can have an effect on how you feel physically. They can even effect how things smell and taste. I personally am enjoying a Coke that I wouldn’t be able to stand the taste of in the first two weeks of my cycle. But I’ve been married for a long time and would never countenance blaming my hormones for hurting my spouse. Hormones are a tool. When you make them into something mystical, something beyond your control, you cheapen yourself and your worth.