I expect this post’ll get me in trouble. I’m writing from a place of intense physical pain accompanied by exhaustion and nausea. Not that it’s an excuse to be such a wanker. But there it is.
I just need to get some stuff off my chest that is not politically correct or necessarily nice. And I’m sorry.
* just because a person doesn’t currently have a child, don’t assume that they have never had (or lost) a child.
* everybody knows grief and hardship. Being a parent doesnt give you a special ticket to the grief and hardship olympics. So quit telling people who don’t have kids that they don’t understand because they aren’t a parent. You don’t understand just how much the childless and child free DO understand.
* if you have more than two kids you might want to examine your personal choices before blaming the president, congress, CEOs, banks, the stock market, global warming and the Iraq war for why you cant afford anything.
* being a mother doesn’t make you special. Motherhood is by its very nature one of the most ordinary things that can happen to a woman.
* if the restaurant has a wine list in any form other than a laminated card stuck between the salt shaker and the ketchup bottle…it is not child friendly.
* if you’ve decided to have kids, part of the territory is putting your good times on hold for a decade and a half while you get them raised right. Yes, it sucks. But you get all these magical holidays and sweet interludes you’re always bragging about. Those things have a price. It’s called “your freedom”
* no child should have a cell phone if they don’t also have a job. Or, at the very least, household chores. Yeah, I know you say the cell phone makes your job as a parent easier. A) see the above item and B) right now is when you are supposed to be teaching them about work and reward. So do it.
* video games are not the same thing as play.
* Kinect and Wii are not the same thing as exercise.
* a good education costs money. It also costs your time and involvement. Society didn’t have those babies. You did.
* you are the parent. Not me. Not their teachers, your neighbors, the waitstaff, the person behind youbin the line at Krogers, your senator, your congressman, the health department or the FDA. Quit expecting those people to do your job for you.