I guess the Internet is now a place where people like to pretend they’re on Jerry Springer.
Okay. Right; yes. I know. It’s always been like that in places. (Free Republic and Democratic Underground, anyone?) But used to be you could go to innocuous fora and have the talk be about neutral things like Weight Watchers points and Disney World.
Hah. I’m so naive. Because that is no longer the way. See, I went to a WDW to post a question about something I noticed on my trip. I’ve had a lot of issues here with older boys being in the Women’s bathroom and both boys and girls peeking between cracks or under the stall at me. By “a lot of issues” I mean it’s happened maybe 10x a year (the boy thing) and 3x a year (the peeking thing.) But at Disney it was a pervasive thing for boys who appeared to be as old as 11 to be in the women’s bathrooms with their mothers. So pervasive that it was pretty much every time you went into a bathroom and twice I noticed women coming outside to double-check the signage. When there are more little boys than women in a bathroom and you have to look outside (or for the tampon dispenser on the wall) to make sure you’re in the right spot, it’s kind of a deal.
So I just asked politely if this was maybe a cultural thing. See, at WDW–especially in the fall–a lot of the visitors there are from other countries. And I was thinking maybe this was something they do in Brazil or France or wherever.
Whoops. Apparently, judging by the harsh words thrown back and forth all evening this is a huge issue with a lot of people calling other people hens and and accusing them of being too ashamed of their bodies and frigid and sexually dysfunctional and child rapists and murderers and etc. etc.
This is on a forum for Walt Disney World.
I do have some thoughts, now that I know it’s something to have thoughts on. But the most pervasive thought I have is that I feel really sorry for men. Did you know that simply having a penis makes you a skeevy criminal who is only held in check by the force of societal disapprobation? If it were not for women, you would either be molesting little boys in every public bathroom or turning your back while another empenised rogue does so. I know they’ve talked about this over at Tiny Cat Pants before in other contexts, but this is just like the sad root and fruit of the problem in one place.
I also think that being too suspicious of people makes you less kind overall. Don’t get me wrong. I believe in caution, suspicion, the whole nine yards. My family even calls me the “Belt and Suspenders girl” because I’m sometimes overly cautious myself. But when you look at other people and see only devils, it seems to free you up from whatever obligation you may have to kindness. And that is a problem no matter who you are.