Comments on: She’s Marrying A House!

By: princessbubble

princessbubble — Wed, 14 May 2008 11:58:17 +0000

I always have said if the big celebration was for graduation (or home purchase) and a type of anniversary party (low key, small) replaced the wedding–then girls would not marry just to have a wedding-they would marry for the marriage. I am 40 and single and have been in 17 weddings! But, I wrote a fairy tale about a princess like me-www.PrincessBubble.com to show girls you can have happily ever after even if you don’t find a prince!

By: Katherine Coble

Katherine Coble — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:44:36 +0000

Yeah, nm pretty much said what I was trying to say.

PK, I’ve got to say that I have never seen anyone so laid-back about house buying. It was kind of cute. ;-p

By: Jonnelle

Jonnelle — Tue, 13 May 2008 16:23:50 +0000

Kat, you might have been more excited about it if I had been… instead of treating it like I had just bought another pair of shoes.

I still giggle every time I think about your reaction to what I said….

Kat: What did you do today?
PK: Oh, I bought a house.
Kat: WHAT?! You are.. so .. casual..

Or whatever it was that you said. It makes me smile.

Thank you for the thought. The love is appreciated!

By: GingerSnaps

GingerSnaps — Tue, 13 May 2008 14:10:10 +0000

nm, you said it perfectly…

By: Elena

Elena — Tue, 13 May 2008 14:02:19 +0000

nm:

She’s noting that coming of age for many women, the point at which we formally recognize their womanhood instead of girlhood, doesn’t center around marriage (although these women may indeed marry). It centers not on union, but on independence: on buying oneself a house. And the celebration of that shouldn’t be focussed on the house itself, but on the independent woman who has purchased it.

Exactly. PK had plenty o’ stuff when she moved into her new place. She didn’t need shower gifts (although, she’s not one to refuse a gift card!). But a celebration of God’s blessings upon her and of the milestone (one of many in a person’s adulthood) would have been perfect! =) Wish I had thought of it.

By: nm

nm — Tue, 13 May 2008 12:01:07 +0000

But I don’t think that a housewarming party is exactly what Kat’s talking about. She seems to me to be talking about recognizing a rite of passage that we usually ignore, and creating a new ceremony/celebration for it. She’s noting that coming of age for many women, the point at which we formally recognize their womanhood instead of girlhood, doesn’t center around marriage (although these women may indeed marry). It centers not on union, but on independence: on buying oneself a house. And the celebration of that shouldn’t be focussed on the house itself, but on the independent woman who has purchased it.

At least, that’s what I get out of what Kat’s saying.

By: GingerSnaps

GingerSnaps — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:40:26 +0000

No, Heather, you’re not out of touch…it is called a “housewarming party” here, too… it would be fun to call it a “shower” to honor this milestone in a lovely single woman’s life, though…

It’s all in good fun!

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:23:05 +0000

Maybe I’m out of touch, but isn’t it called a housewarming party?

Or is that a regional thing?

By: GingerSnaps

GingerSnaps — Mon, 12 May 2008 23:56:16 +0000

As a matter of fact, you CAN register at Home Depot!

This reminds me of the episode of “Sex and the City”where Carrie was so tired of all of the baby shower & bridal shower parties and gifts…and found herself wondering if she had made a mistake in choosing the lifestyle she was living rather than a more traditional path…and that there were no big celebrations for the single woman’s milestones…so she decided that she was going to send out an announcement that she was marrying…herself…and registered at Manolo Blahnik for shoes!

I think throwing a big “shower” for B when she buys her new house is a fabulous idea!!!

By: Aunt B.

Aunt B. — Mon, 12 May 2008 23:05:06 +0000

Woo hoo! I love this idea. And not just because it means I can throw a giant party, but yeah, because it is good to mark important things. I wonder if I can register at Lowe’s or Home Depot? Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.