This time I’m calling her a bigot and I’m not apologising.
Because she’s written a post that reaches through the internet and slaps me square in the face.
The fullness of marriage is not achieved with the swapping of rings and the symbolic kiss, but rather when the union results in the bearing of a child. … I don’t believe that marriages must produce a child to be a marriage–but its ability to is its very essence.
Listen here, Terry.
I’ve got about the most perfectly “Christian” marriage you could find. A preacher’s kid and a woman who was born again at 4, baptised at 10, both of whom have half the Bible memorised. We are active in our church and I think that even the non-Christians who know us would gladly step in and tell you that we are Christian people doing our best to live as Christ would have us live.
We are a man and a woman. We took communion at our wedding. We vowed to have a Christ-centered marriage. We’re pretty darn perfect as far as your criteria go.
Except for the children. We haven’t had any. Not through any choice of our own, of course, but through the working of the very God in whom I believe and you purport to believe. Surgeries and drugs and pain and tears have led us to this place where we accept that God allows crack addicts and wayward highschoolers a blessing He chooses to withhold from us. I spent a lot of years saying “Father, let this cup pass from me” and am now saying “okay fine, your will be done.”
But, lady, I am as married as married gets. WE ARE A FAMILY. The very Bible in which I believe and you purport to believe says that marriage is a model for Christ and the Church. (It’s all over Ephesians, which is in the New Testament, which is in the back half, in case you’re not sure where to find it.) Man is to love his wife enough to die for her. Woman is to love her husband totally and serve him gladly in partnership. It serves as a microcosmic model of Christ’s sacrificial relationship with mankind. Nowhere in Ephesians or the Gospels or any other back-half books does God say that a marriage requires children to be a marriage. Children are a blessing but not a necessity.
How dare you, in your crusade to propell a religious institution into the realm of the State, do you then look at my marriage, which is the very essence of that religious institution and call it “not valid”! How dare you decide that you and you alone have got the world figured out.
I hope you quake in shame in front of God at that day when you have to account for your behaviour. I hope on that great day our God looks at you and says “why did you think you were good enough to do my job for me?” And I hope you have enough time to come up with one doozy of an answer.